Lao-tse speaks of the death of a loved one, or anyone for that matter, as a time to rejoice and a birth as a time to mourn. He is right, you know. He was and Is one of the greatest Sages in history, the acclaimed author of the Tao Te Ching, and the founder of ancient Taoist philosophy. Zen, the non-religious philosophy and Practice of Mahayana Buddhism or Ch'an Buddhism expresses the Wisdom of Non-attachment to the good, the bad, the pain, and the suffering we encounter within the illusory "realities" created by our Egos. These two Ways of Wisdom are very similar and both absolutely correct teachings of the One Truth. Getting to this level of self-mastery is a Path that removes the accumulated garbage we suppress over eons and clears up the "interference" that conceals our calm Center, our True Nature or Self. However, the "tool(s)", such as meditation, Tai Chi, et al, we use to follow and clear this Path can take a lifetime or more of dedication. So what do we do when tragedy hits?
I just found out that my only brother died a tragic death so once again I am faced with this enormous obstacle on my Path. If I go with the Wisdom and Flow around it unattached, if possible, it will appear heartless and callous. Plus, if I just suppress my deep sorrow, it will have to be faced later. The only solution that feels Right is to allow my Mind and Body to Be naturally One, open the floodgates, and Let Go. It will painfully surface and eventually dissipate. This is the plan. When and where, I do not know.
I love you John, Always have, Always will, and we shall meet again along this vicious cycle of Life and Death. For now though, Rest in Peace. You deserve it!
In loving memory of my Brother...